So my DIL wants an update......so here you go.
WARNING WARNING UPDATE WILL REFLECT MY MOOD THIS MORNING WHICH ISN'T GOOD SO YOU MIGHT WANT TO STOP READING NOW....
Okay if your still with me then you get what you get! No complaining to me!
I've had a really down week - nothing I can point at that says this is why I've had the "Don't give a Damns" but I have had them BIG TIME!!!!!! Here's a mix up of what has gone on in my head (is going on in my head)
1. Why do I "sacrafice" something I want for someone else .....do it willingly and then resent the HELL out of it? Some examples......
a: Randy got a road bike - I swore I wouldn't buy him another thing for his biking HOBBY/Obsession until I got a new couch. We've been looking - a bunch at couchs haven't found one I like enough to commit to for the next 10 years (at least my current couch was given to me by Mom who bought it in 1974.......that is a long time to see the same couch....up until about 2 years ago I couldn't reasonably justify getting a new one because this one is built to last and was still in good shape......this is no longer the case - it is VERY UNCOMFORTABLE!) Since he is riding across the STATE on his bike it wasn't a hard decision to say let's go ahead and buy the road bike NOW since you need it and I haven't found a couch I/we like. Now I get pissy about it.
b: I buy things that the kids/grandkids need - to make their lifes happier and then they don't use it or sale it in a garage sale or whatever and I think - Crap I should have just gotten that *** fill in the blank for myself, at least I would still be enjoying it. Understand, when I give it to them as a gift it is their's to do with as they please.....if they want cool bedding for their children and then decide to never make the bed to show it off it is really really none of my business....I know this but does it keep me from resenting it? Do I beat myself up afterwards for resenting it - YES should I resent it NO.......
2. What gives other people the right to make decisions that effect ME and then dump it on me? Point in hand is that our church does a production every year in October. This year we are selling the actual building where we host it. The couple that is normally in charge are retired and traveling a BUNCH so Randy and I and another dear couple are "producing" the production. We the four of us - put our heads together and decided to postpone the production until we see our new digs and have more time to focus on it.......like March of 2008. Pastor and the couple that is actually in charge didn't agree with us. So we are going ahead with the production 2 weeks earlier than usual but the decision to go ahead was made about 2 months later than usual. Original couple is out of town until the Sunday before dress rehearsal. The other couple that are helping us are going through some bad times...personal tragedies, new school year (both are teachers) etc....... Randy is traveling a BUNCH and so it all falls on my shoulders........and I HATE IT! I have even thought about just changing churches to walk away from the pressure, but I am not a quitter, and can't stand the thought of what everyone would say about me afterwards.
3. My job still hasn't improved - I can't bring myself to look for another one for the following reasons.......
a. I'm fat and wouldn't want to hire someone that looks like me
b. I will lose vacation time (I currently have 4 weeks a year)
c. I am not a quitter and can't stand the though of what everyone would say if I walked away
d. I like for the most part, the people I work with and would miss them.
e. I've been here before and having plowed on through was the right decision and would be again I'm sure!
So here's the question for you..........how do I change my attitude? How do I either stop being self sacrificing or stop resenting it when I am? Anyone, Anyone - oh yeah y'all quit reading with the warning.
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